When does pornography and ADHD become yet another disorder?
Today’s post is a heavy one. It’s as controversial as it is taboo.
The topic desperately needs to come out and be discussed.
I’m talking about pornography and the crippling effects it’s having on people today, particularly those with ADD/ADHD.
I see this problem more and more, and I feel it warrants a serious discussion.
Recently the Minneapolis Star Tribune featured an article about the impact of pornography, focusing on how it affects today’s men. It discussed the distorted thinking it promotes, the easy access we have to it, and the especially damaging effect it has on relationships.
Viewing pornography has been proven to be – quite literally – addictive.
Behavioral scientists and psychologists have begun to identify a number of predictable signs and symptoms of those afflicted with pornography addiction.
Unfortunately, it is still largely a socially acceptable addiction and despite the evidence to the contrary, it can still sometimes be dismissed as a harmless pastime.
If there’s anything pornography is NOT, it’s harmless. It’s an addiction that needs to be taken just as seriously as a drug or alcohol addiction.
Pornography is an especially gripping stronghold for those with ADD/ADHD because of the way their brains are wired.
It fills the need for compulsive and immediate satisfaction that an ADD/ADHD person can get from any sort of technological interaction. ADHD brains have a relentless desire for stimulation, and technology fills that impulse for them.
Unrelenting desire for immediate sexual gratification.
When the need for ongoing stimulation is coupled with the sexually charged addictive content, the damaging effects tend to be magnified. This can lead to a stronger addiction, making it more difficult to manage.
Perhaps the most debilitating effect that pornography has on men in particular, is what I would refer to as arrested development.
They simply cannot grow into the next stage of life and maturity when they are held back by the stronghold of pornography addiction.
They struggle with relationships, career advancement, and their social life, and they just can’t seem to move forward no matter what they do.
Most feel tremendous shame because of their addiction.
Shame is usually the catalyst for the downward spiral that includes hiding the addiction, which worsens the problem, which increases their shame.
In the dark, it’s left unaddressed where the problem only worsens and infects all other areas of their life.
While all of this may sound terribly hopeless, there is good news. Just as with any addiction, there is help available for those addicted to pornography. Programs are already in place that can successfully help the afflicted overcome their addictions, even those who struggle with ADD/ADHD. A good search of the internet for mental health professionals who specialize in this addiction should yield good results.
If you believe that you are addicted, I implore you to get help. You do not need to live within the shame and grip of an addiction that feels out of your control.