Struggling to become the Master of your ADD/ADHD universe?
Do you wrestle with a daily tsunami of negative thoughts or fears?
Does your day become bad because you couldn’t find your keys?
Do you look at others and wish you had their life?
Why it’s so difficult to become the Master of your ADD/ADHD universe, especially when it appears out of reach.
This is because of the many negative, corrective, adjusting, and modifying messages that address what you do “wrong” or differently. Initially it’s the external messages from teachers, parents and other loved ones. Over time, you don’t need their help, because you have your own, well-rehearsed critical dialogue that reinforces your negative feelings and thoughts.
Who wants to own the universe of a “failure”, a “misfit,” someone who’s “so dumb that I repeat the same mistakes over and over?”
It’s pretty easy to understand why the thinking of someone with ADD/ADHD can often times become negative, depressed, helpless, sad and angry on a regular basis.
It’s all about personal control or self regulation.
Or the lack thereof. ADD/ADHD symptoms can be consistently inconsistent which can lead you to thinking that there’s something seriously wrong with your brain so that you have no apparent control over your life.
You can easily get trapped into ruminating about your feelings, having them take on a greater level of importance than reality would suggest.
Catastrophic thinking leads to hopelessness and despair.
Developing resiliency to bring order to your universe.
- Assess the belief or feeling: is it realistic, catastrophic: what are the facts?
- Consider the outcome of a situation or thought: worst-case, best-case and mostly likely. Have you lived through this before, and if so, how did you handle it? What’s the worst that could happen and how could you deal with it?
- Get comfortable with uncomfortable feelings, thoughts or situations. Remember it’s only discomfort, nothing more.
- Take steps to avoid mind-wandering with exercise, music, helping others.
- Incorporate mindfulness, meditation, breathing or other mind calming tools.
- Develop a compassionate self-dialogue that includes: gratitude, forgiveness, acceptance, self-love. Practice it daily.
If this situation rings true for you and you’re ready for help, working with an experienced ADD/ADHD Coach may be right for you. Contact me today and find out more about how you can better manage the ADD/ADHD in your life.